Why Do Some People Often Wear Black?

Before becoming a color therapist, I spent my 20s as a housewife, completing my bachelor's degree in interior design. I lived between a beautiful apartment in the heart of Tokyo and a four-bedroom house in Doha. During the day in Tokyo, I often wandered aimlessly, shopping and attempting to fill an internal void with anything but what I truly needed.

Returning home with colorful items that ended up in a dark corner of my closet, I found myself unable to wear anything other than black, brown, and darker colors. Despite looking good in color and noticing a glow in my, I felt uncomfortable in them. The feelings of "too much" and "overwhelming" led me to abandon colorful clothing.

Later that year, amidst personal struggles that made me question the life I had created, I discovered color studies, delving into the subject to understand my aversion to bright colors. I realized these colors made me glow and shine, but I had deep-seated fears about being seen. Honestly, my resistance to wearing colors opened up a Pandora’s box of self-discovery, revealing stories about being seen, my relationship with myself, and the necessity for change.

In my nine years of work I have encountered many people who couldn’t wear anything but black greys and darker colors, all with different stories but with the same essence.

Black is a color that makes us feel protected. It’s a color that conceals things, hides bloated days, bad days, and helps us blend in (great for introverts). It keeps us mysterious and many of us were told being mysterious keeps us away from being vulnerable to others.

Black is a color that is easy to wear, it doesn’t require us to put ourselves out there it’s simple, it goes with everything. It’s a color we go to when we don’t want to think too much. After all, the little black dress is a signature classic in fashion because it’s easy and hides all the things we don’t want seen. Black is glorified in fashion to be the ultimate pick. 

I’m here to tell you, I LOVE black but also all other colors. it’s time to invite all other parts of us to join the table, to feel comfortable being seen and being there. Other colors paired with black amplifies their effect on you, it helps you absorb them more. Black is a great color to reflect, to go deep within yourself.

Why do some people where black all the time?

Naturally, we need to go within and outside of ourselves to experience the life we came here to experience. Being in black all the time is you telling your subconscious mind to stay within all the time. Why? 

Black as mentioned before is a color that helps us feel protected, the question here is why do you need to feel protected all the time? 

Black helps us blend in so why do you want to blend in all the time? What does wearing other colors represent to me? If you have a resistance YAY! Let’s look at it. 

How does it make me feel when I see people wearing color? Why can’t I do it?  

Look at your answers as answers to why don’t I want to be seen?  What do I feel about people who are seen? How do I feel about expression? 

This can be a very interesting exercise to unlock your relationship with yourself.